the concept and idea of “you can always start trying to be a better person” is extremely important to me both in media and irl and i continue to be deeply deeply disturbed by the trend on this site pushing that these ideas in media are bad writing or even morally reprehensible

because theyd rather someone stay terrible or just straight up die than become a better person 

from a compassionate point of view it’s deeply distressing
and from a pragmatic point of view it’s outright frustrating

it’s fucked up. 

What is the most important step a man can take?

The next.

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I think part of the pushback about this is the idea that, to “redeem” bad people, their victims must first forgive them for unforgivable acts.

This is false. No one is obligated to forgive you. You can learn from your mistakes and become the best, kindest person on earth, and the people you’ve hurt still won’t forgive you, and you’ll have to accept that. And that doesn’t mean you aren’t allowed to grow. Because we aren’t just “pure” or “sinful”, we’re complex.

We're not appreciating the Weird Barbie enough. It's said in the movie that she helps everyone who need help while they always see her as someone who's not as good as them. She was friends with all dismissed Barbies and Kens, was there to offer support and safe shelter for everyone who needed it in Kendom, without her nothing in the movie would've been alright. When Stereotypical Barbie calls her "ugly and unwanted" she still helps her.

She was representing a woman in women's world who was pushed aside by other women because she didn't fit in but still had more wiseness and kindness than everyone who thought they're better than her.

i keep pretending idgaf about The Dragon Prince but then a new season drops and I slurp the whole thing up in one sitting idk idk idk i guess its okay, fuck.

im a slut for star elf dick, that's what it is. i absorb 9 episodes through osmosis just for 0.1 seconds of that sultry fucked up Aaravos voice

vaguely annoyed by the pacing this season but it was worth it for the emotional payout at the end. 9/10 could have used more Aaravos but otherwise a solid season. cant wait for it to get cancelled and leave me hanging 🙃

just saw Barbie so here are some (non-spoilery) highlights:

  • ken becoming DEEPLY obsessed with horses
  • MULTIPLE highly choreographed dance numbers that last for several minutes
  • kens job is beach
  • a tween calls Barbie a fascist (?????? ok screenwriters)
  • mojo dojo casa house
  • kens big mink coat having a HORSE THEMED LINING
  • i know we were deeply obsessed with the outfits but good god. the OUTFITS.
  • extensive Barbie lore
  • Barbie’s heart to heart with a lovely old woman
  • the kens building a wall
  • beaching one another off
  • KENS SONG THAT HE SINGS FOR LIKE 5 MINUTES
  • like twelve executives on one tandem bike
  • depression Barbie
  • ALLEN
  • i am kenough :)
  • gynecologist.

beautiful beautiful deeply camp coming of age story with layers and so much life. ive gained twenty new sewing projects from the opening shots of Barbieland alone. made my gf cry. 20/10

i keep pretending idgaf about The Dragon Prince but then a new season drops and I slurp the whole thing up in one sitting idk idk idk i guess its okay, fuck.

im a slut for star elf dick, that’s what it is. i absorb 9 episodes through osmosis just for 0.1 seconds of that sultry fucked up Aaravos voice

i keep pretending idgaf about The Dragon Prince but then a new season drops and I slurp the whole thing up in one sitting idk idk idk i guess its okay, fuck.

Okay I don't have the spoons for an in-depth essay about the Barbie movie so here's my loose thoughts:

  • The transition from despising Barbie, not for the idea she represents but the ideas that are forced upon her to being a fierce supporter of Barbie is such the quintessential teenage experience.
  • The beauty of human creativity, how our ideas can change and grow and become even more than we could have imagined.
  • The themes of motherhood and its beauties and hardships
  • The depression Barbie came for everyone's necks?? I just know that's getting a meme 😭
  • I love that Ken had a character arc too, going from an accessory to a perpetrator of the patriarchy. Then unlearning misogyny as he realizes, when he places his value in himself, in his being instead of Barbie's, the fragility of his ego goes away. Great message!
  • Weird Barbie becoming more butch and the Sugar's Daddy and Magic Earring Kens living in her weird house, I know what yall are 😏
  • The mom was so me every time she freaked out about understanding the references of the different Barbies.
  • I loved the dismantling the Barbieland patriarchy scene, especially the jokes about the Godfather 😭
  • Will Ferrell's character was so goofy, I loved that he wasn't super evil, just a weird guy.
  • The overall idea of how wonderful it is to be human! The growth, change, joy, sadness, the existentialism! It's all so wonderful, it's all new every day all day. It really gave me a renewed sense of being :,)

I hate living under the panopticon :( my tummy hurts :(

we know

By the way, saying "I won't be vegan because it's not accessible to everyone" when it is personally accessible to you is not the intelligent and progressive statement you think it is.

Also the definition of veganism is not partaking in animal exploitation as far as it's possible and practical for you. So if you are doing everything you can to be vegan, even if you rely on products sourced from or tested on animals to some degree to survive or maintain your quality of life for any reason, then you are still vegan.

“Anti-prostitution feminists and even policymakers often ask sex workers whether we would have sex with our clients if we weren’t being paid. Work is thus constantly being re-inscribed as something so personally fulfilling you would pursue it for free. Indeed, this understanding is in some ways embedded in anti-prostitution advocacy through the prevalence of unpaid internships in such organisations. Equality Now, a major, multimillion-dollar anti-prostitution organisation, instructs applicants that their eight-to-ten week internships will be unpaid (adding that ‘no arrangements can be made for housing’). Such posts are common: Ruhama advertises numerous volunteer roles that could easily be paid jobs. In 2017, a UK anti-slavery charity came under fire in the national press for advertising unpaid internships. In 2013, Turn Off the Red Light, an Irish anti-prostitution NGO consortium, advertised for an intern who would not be paid the minimum wage. The result of these unpaid and underpaid internships is that the women who are most able to build careers in the women’s sector – campaigning and setting policy agendas around prostitution – are women who can afford to do unpaid full-time work in New York and London. In this context, it is hardly a surprise that the anti-prostitution movement as a whole has a somewhat abstracted view of the relationship between work and money.”

— Molly Smith. “Revolting Prostitutes.”

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